

I chugged a small glass of water with lemon, my morning routine.

I padded into the kitchen, popped a pod into my Kuerig and sat down heavily at my kitchen counter stool. Our show opened next weekend and I couldn’t afford any distractions. I toed on my slippers and just sat there on the side of my bed for a moment, rubbing my eyes. So why now, after all these years, was he showing up in my dreams again? Was the chemistry we had still there? Would the old feelings I had for him come back? I loved my boyfriend Ryan, but a part of me was worried that if Taylor came on to me again, would I give in like I had beofre. Needless to say, I didn’t need Taylor showing up in my dreams. We fell for eachother hard and fast and ending it was one of the hardest things I’d ever done. It was the best sex I’d ever had in my life. I got swept up in it and it carried me away. A kind of electric chemistry I’d never felt with anyone before. But in his own way, I think he did love me. I fought it initially, but the attraction was to hard to resist. It was very hard leaving him and it took me years to process what had happened. Taylor and me’s affair only went on for a couple weeks before I ended it and went home, but it was very intense and he believed he was in love with me. How Taylor and me met, how the affair started, how I met Ryan… everything. In that I go over everything that happened. Like I said, you’ll understand more if you’ve read my previous story. There was a time I thought about him daily, but those days were long gone. It had been five years since I’d seen Taylor. I didn’t know why this was happening now, and I wished it wasn’t. And when I awoke, they felt as real as if they had just happened. Lately Taylor had been making appearances in my dreams. I sat up in bed and groaned, my head in my hands. "I want this moment to last forever," he said. I kissed him back, enjoying how his body felt against mine. He led me into an alcove and then, without warning, pulled me close and kissed me hard. "Come with me." Taylor said, taking my hand. "Holy shit." I mumbled, eyes wide, hand on my chest. Suddenly, a huge clap of thunder erupted, causing me to jump. I was reminded of this recently when I read this article in The Guardian featuring four women in UK politics speaking out about the “constant” abuse they face and the tole it is taking on them.”Isn't it great?" Taylor asked, spreading his arms out and throwing his head back. The quote from British MP Jess Phillips in which she stated that she is not worried about Labour winning the upcoming election (as anyone with a passing interest in the Brexit saga will know, Brits go to the polls before Christmas), she is worried she will get killed, literally stopped me in my tracks. Is it any wonder a significant number of women opted not to pursue re-election in the UK citing abuse as their reason? This is the world women in politics now inhabit. If that sounds like hyperbole, consider this: all the women in the Guardian article talked about receiving a growing number of threats and intimidation. They all talked about having to take additional steps to ensure their safety. Internationally, a number of high-profile instances of violence against women in politics have reached extremes, most notably the murder of UK Parliamentarian Jo Cox in 2016. Now, as Britain heads to the polls, female MPs in the UK are clearly living in the shadow of Jo Cox’ murder and going into the next election the spectre of violence looms large. There is a lot of talk of “being a lot more careful now”. This should not be part of the calculation for taking part in political life.Īs Rushanara Ali, the Labour MP for Bethnal Green, put it, “You do have to ask yourself what the hell is going on.” Quite.įor an answer to that, I give you these statistics from a 2016 study by the Inter Parliamentary Union. Globally, nearly all female MP’s have experienced psychological violence in the course of their parliamentary work. And what does that mean for our democracy: “ Two thirds of women MPs say that progress on tackling violence against women in politics impacts their willingness to stand for re-election.” One third have experienced economic abuse, a quarter some type of physical abuse and a fifth some form of sexual violence. Here in Australia, a new survey released by Plan International Australia found 90% of girls and young women polled say female politicians are not treated fairly compared with their male counterparts.
